Let's Talk About Sex!
>> Monday, December 8, 2008
Things are pretty quiet over here. I want to keep a more active blog but I haven't had much to say that would be worth your while to read. I feel fine and I don't look pregnant yet — just fat. I promise to post a belly pic just as soon as I have something resembling a baby bump, whenever that might be.
But there's some excitement on the horizon. Our big ultrasound is on Friday! I can't wait to see our baby again, to hear its heartbeat, and, I hope, to find out its sex.
It's funny how many of our relatives, and especially my relatives, think we're "ruining the surprise" by finding out the gender. I really thought everyone would be as excited to find out as we are. (My friend had the opposite experience and got a fair bit of backlash from her family when she decided not to find out.) Even my grandfather said we shouldn't find out. Surprisingly, my grandmother was on my side: she said she would have loved to find out if the technology had been available when she was pregnant with any of her six kids.
But, really, I think there will be quite enough excitement going on the day I give birth. Nothing will be "ruined" because we know. I think I need the "surprise" more now than I will then. Knowing the gender will help us (me) bond with the baby, help this feel more real. I will enjoy being able to apply a pronoun other than "it" to my child. Plus, we're going to need all the time we can get to come up with a name we agree on and love!
How do you feel about finding out the sex? If you already have a baby, what did you do? Are you glad you made the decision you did? Why or why not?
3 comments:
My personal choice would be to find out but not tell. My husband wants it to be a surprise. I think labour itself is enough of a surprise.
I don't like the new trend of people sharing the babies name before it's born. I'm not sure why, I think I'm just pretty old fashion like that. Just the same way as I will know the babies sex but won't share.
It's a personal decision.
Being a first time parent holds a LOT of surprises. I think that knowing what gender you will be parenting has it's benefits.
I can't wait to hear if it is a boy or a girl!!!! We are finding out mainly because I have no patience and want to know. For me it doesn't ruin anything. It is going to be just as much of a suprise now as it will be when baby is born. Although this is hard to admit I have a tiny little preference as to what I would like to have. Now obviously I just want a happy healthy baby, but I do secretly have a bit of a hope for one. I'm worried that I might feel a little dissappointment if its not what I was hoping for and I would never want to feel like that during labor when I meet my baby for the first time. Does that make sense? I sound like a horrible person saying I would prefer one over the other and I'm not sure thats even it. I just always had a vision that it would be one sex so I think it will take some getting used to if its not. Can't wait for you to update and tell us what it is!!!
I found out with my first pregnancy and I do not regret it for a second! We got a lot of flack too from my MIL mostly, but who cares! It's not her decision. With this beanie, we are also finding out, and again she said we are ruining the surprise! I said to her well if you don't want to know then we don't have to tell you! Haha, she of course said no way I want to know! So I don't know what she's going on about. Anyways, I personally think knowing the gender is wonderful. With my daughter I felt like I was beginning to really know her and it was wonderful to start calling her by name while I was still pregnant. Of course, it's a very personal decision, and that's why no one should make you feel bad for deciding what YOU want :-) Hope you have a great U/S today!!!
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